Who Am I Without You? The Influence of Romantic Breakup on the Self-Concept

  title={Who Am I Without You? The Influence of Romantic Breakup on the Self-Concept},
  author={Erica B. Slotter and Wendi L. Gardner and Eli J. Finkel},
  journal={Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin},
  pages={147 - 160}
Romantic relationships alter the selves of the individuals within them. Partners develop shared friends and activities and even overlapping self-concepts. This intertwining of selves may leave individuals’ self-concepts vulnerable to change if the relationship ends. The current research examines several different types of self-concept change that could occur after a breakup and their relation to emotional distress. Across three studies, using varied methodologies, the authors examined change in… 

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