When rejection stings: how self-esteem constrains relationship-enhancement processes.

  title={When rejection stings: how self-esteem constrains relationship-enhancement processes.},
  author={Sandra L. Murray and Paul Rose and Gina M. Bellavia and John G. Holmes and Anna Garrett Kusche},
  journal={Journal of personality and social psychology},
  volume={83 3},
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