When a Spouse Comes Out: Impact on the Heterosexual Partner

  title={When a Spouse Comes Out: Impact on the Heterosexual Partner},
  author={A. Buxton},
  journal={Sexual Addiction \& Compulsivity},
  pages={317 - 332}
  • A. Buxton
  • Published 2006
  • Psychology
  • Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity
When a spouse comes out as gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender, the disclosure is a family matter. However, the impact on the heterosexual partner is usually overlooked. Most cope alone, though some find peer support. The most common issues faced are sexual rejection, challenge to the marriage, concern for their children, and crises of identity, integrity, and belief system. Resolving the most unique of these (sexuality, identity, integrity, and belief system) typically takes from three to… Expand
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