Too proud to let go: narcissistic entitlement as a barrier to forgiveness.

  title={Too proud to let go: narcissistic entitlement as a barrier to forgiveness.},
  author={Julie J. Exline and Roy F. Baumeister and Brad J. Bushman and W. K. Campbell and Eli J. Finkel},
  journal={Journal of personality and social psychology},
  volume={87 6},
Narcissistic entitlement impedes forgiveness in ways not captured by other robust predictors (e.g., offense severity, apology, relationship closeness, religiosity, Big Five personality factors), as demonstrated in 6 studies. Narcissistic entitlement involves expectations of special treatment and preoccupation with defending one's rights. In Study 1, entitlement predicted less forgiveness and greater insistence on repayment for a past offense. Complementary results emerged from Study 2, which… 

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