To have and to hold: gratitude promotes relationship maintenance in intimate bonds.

@article{Gordon2012ToHA,
  title={To have and to hold: gratitude promotes relationship maintenance in intimate bonds.},
  author={Amie M. Gordon and E. Impett and Aleksandr Kogan and Christopher Oveis and Dacher Keltner},
  journal={Journal of personality and social psychology},
  year={2012},
  volume={103 2},
  pages={
          257-74
        }
}
This multimethod series of studies merges the literatures on gratitude and risk regulation to test a new process model of gratitude and relationship maintenance. We develop a measure of appreciation in relationships and use cross-sectional, daily experience, observational, and longitudinal methods to test our model. Across studies, we show that people who feel more appreciated by their romantic partners report being more appreciative of their partners. In turn, people who are more appreciative… 

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