Through the eyes of love: reality and illusion in intimate relationships.

@article{Fletcher2010ThroughTE,
  title={Through the eyes of love: reality and illusion in intimate relationships.},
  author={Garth J. O. Fletcher and Patrick S. G. Kerr},
  journal={Psychological bulletin},
  year={2010},
  volume={136 4},
  pages={
          627-58
        }
}
This article reviews the research literature and theory concerned with accuracy of judgments in romantic relationships. We initially propose a model of cognition in (romantic) relationships that distinguishes between 2 forms of accuracy: mean-level bias and tracking accuracy. We then report the results of meta-analyses of research on heterosexual, romantic relationships, which used external benchmarks and reported levels of tracking accuracy (98 studies) and/or mean-level bias (48 studies). The… 

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