The burden of empathy: Partners' responses to divergence of interests in daily life.

  title={The burden of empathy: Partners' responses to divergence of interests in daily life.},
  author={Francesca Righetti and Judith Gere and Wilhelm Hofmann and Mariko L. Visserman and Paul A. M. van Lange},
  volume={16 5},
Empathy has often been discussed as a beneficial process from which favorable individual and interpersonal experiences may be derived. The present work investigates whether empathy may sometimes be a burden rather than a benefit, under certain interpersonal circumstances. Specifically, we hypothesized that encountering situations of divergence of interests with a partner may cause discomfort, and that empathizing with one's partner would exacerbate this discomfort, resulting in higher levels of… 

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