The architecture of interdependent minds: A Motivation-management theory of mutual responsiveness.

@article{Murray2009TheAO,
  title={The architecture of interdependent minds: A Motivation-management theory of mutual responsiveness.},
  author={Sandra L Murray and John G. Holmes},
  journal={Psychological review},
  year={2009},
  volume={116 4},
  pages={
          908-28
        }
}
A model of mutual responsiveness in adult romantic relationships is proposed. Behaving responsively in conflict-of-interest situations requires one partner to resist the temptation to be selfish and the other partner to resist the temptation to protect against exploitation. Managing risk and the attendant temptations of self-interest require the interpersonal mind to function in ways that coordinate trust and commitment across partners. The authors describe a system of procedural or "if... then… 
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