The Quest for Conviction: Motivated Cognition in Romantic Relationships

  title={The Quest for Conviction: Motivated Cognition in Romantic Relationships},
  author={Sandra L Murray},
  journal={Psychological Inquiry},
  • S. Murray
  • Published 1999
  • Psychology
  • Psychological Inquiry
In this article I explore the motivated construalprocesses that allow individuals to dispel doubt and sustain conviction in the face of less-than-pegectpartners and relationships. The surface features of conviction are discussedfirst with a focus on the positive illusions that predict relationship well-being and stability. The structural underpinnings of conviction are then discussed with a focus on the cognitive mechanisms that contain the implications of negativity within positive… 
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