The Contingencies of Interpersonal Acceptance: When Romantic Relationships Function as a Self-Affirmational Resource

@article{Murray2001TheCO,
  title={The Contingencies of Interpersonal Acceptance: When Romantic Relationships Function as a Self-Affirmational Resource},
  author={Sandra L. Murray and Gina M. Bellavia and Brooke C Feeney and John G. Holmes and Paul Rose},
  journal={Motivation and Emotion},
  year={2001},
  volume={25},
  pages={163-189}
}
Existing research suggests that people with high, but not low, self-esteem use their dating partners' love and acceptance as a resource for self-affirmation when faced with personal shortcomings. The present research examines the role that perceived contingencies of acceptance play in mediating these effects. In Experiment 1, we activated either conditional or unconditional working models and then gave experimental participants failure feedback on an intelligence test. In Experiment 2, we… 
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