The `Fair Deal'? Unpacking Accounts of Reciprocity in Heterosex

  title={The `Fair Deal'? Unpacking Accounts of Reciprocity in Heterosex},
  author={Virginia Braun and Nicola Gavey and Kathleen McPhillips},
  pages={237 - 261}
Reciprocity is a basic premise of egalitarian relationships, and is typically depicted as a `good thing' within heterosexual sex and relationships. Here we examine a discourse of reciprocity - articulated as orgasm for both partners - evident in accounts of heterosex collected from 15 heterosexual women and 15 men. We argue that notions of reciprocity are not necessarily as liberatory as they might seem, as they do not occur in a social or sexual vacuum. In conjunction with other dominant… 

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