Telling Secrets, Revealing Lives

  title={Telling Secrets, Revealing Lives},
  author={Carolyn S Ellis},
  journal={Qualitative Inquiry},
  pages={29 - 3}
  • C. Ellis
  • Published 2007
  • Sociology
  • Qualitative Inquiry
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