Tell Me Sweet (And Not-So-Sweet) Little Lies: Deception in Romantic Relationships

  title={Tell Me Sweet (And Not-So-Sweet) Little Lies: Deception in Romantic Relationships},
  author={Jennifer Ann Guthrie and Adrianne Kunkel},
  journal={Communication Studies},
  pages={141 - 157}
Deception undoubtedly plays a complex role in romantic relationships. While honesty and openness are desirable traits among romantic partners, partners may nonetheless use deception in order to meet personal or relational goals. This study provides a richer understanding of the extent to which deception is used in romantic relationships and the common motives for deceiving partners. The diary-based, qualitative responses of 67 participants were examined for instances of, and reasons for… Expand
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