Suppression Sours Sacrifice

@article{Impett2012SuppressionSS,
  title={Suppression Sours Sacrifice},
  author={E. Impett and Aleksandr Kogan and Tammy English and Oliver P. John and Christopher Oveis and Amie M. Gordon and Dacher Keltner},
  journal={Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin},
  year={2012},
  volume={38},
  pages={707 - 720}
}
What happens when people suppress their emotions when they sacrifice for a romantic partner? This multimethod study investigates how suppressing emotions during sacrifice shapes affective and relationship outcomes. In Part 1, dating couples came into the laboratory to discuss important romantic relationship sacrifices. Suppressing emotions was associated with emotional costs for the partner discussing his or her sacrifice. In Part 2, couples participated in a 14-day daily experience study… 

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