Shame and the motivation to change the self.

  title={Shame and the motivation to change the self.},
  author={Brian Lickel and Kostadin Kushlev and Victoria Savalei and Shashi Matta and Toni Schmader},
  volume={14 6},
A central question of human psychology is whether and when people change for the better. Although it has long been assumed that emotion plays a central role in self-regulation, the role of specific emotions in motivating a desire for self-change has been largely ignored. We report 2 studies examining people's lived experiences of self-conscious emotions, particularly shame, in motivating a desire for self-change. Study 1 revealed that when participants recalled experiences of shame, guilt, or… 

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