Self-esteem and the quest for felt security: how perceived regard regulates attachment processes.

  title={Self-esteem and the quest for felt security: how perceived regard regulates attachment processes.},
  author={Sandra L Murray and John G. Holmes and Dale W. Griffin},
  journal={Journal of personality and social psychology},
  volume={78 3},
The authors proposed that personal feelings of self-esteem foster the level of confidence in a partner's regard critical for satisfying attachments. Dating and married couples described themselves, their partners, how they thought their partners saw them, and how they wanted their partners to see them on a variety of interpersonal qualities. The results revealed that low self-esteem individuals dramatically underestimated how positively their partners saw them. Such unwarranted and unwanted… 
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  • J. D. Campbell
  • Psychology
    Journal of personality and social psychology
  • 1990
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