Romantic Bonds, Binds, and Ruptures: Couples on the Brink

  title={Romantic Bonds, Binds, and Ruptures: Couples on the Brink},
  author={Virginia Goldner},
  journal={Psychoanalytic Dialogues},
  pages={402 - 418}
  • V. Goldner
  • Published 4 July 2014
  • Psychology
  • Psychoanalytic Dialogues
“Bill and Jane,” a couple I saw many years ago, are placeholders for all the anguished, angry, exhausting, and poignant partners who have made their mark on my work as a clinician and theorist. They inspired and defeated me in equal measure, and they ground this essay, which attempts to bring together many of the theories I have fallen in love with over the years. Psychoanalysis, feminist theory, and systems theory, of course, but also developmental and attachment theory, Fonagy’s work on… 

Romantic Bonds, Binds, and Ruptures: Couples on the Brink

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