Relating at a distance: Negotiating being together and being apart in long-distance relationships

  title={Relating at a distance: Negotiating being together and being apart in long-distance relationships},
  author={Erin Sahlstein},
  journal={Journal of Social and Personal Relationships},
  pages={689 - 710}
  • E. Sahlstein
  • Published 1 October 2004
  • Psychology
  • Journal of Social and Personal Relationships
Partners in various relational types transition between being together and apart, but these transitions are far from seamless in long-distance relationships (LDRs). In this study, a relational dialectics framework was used to examine long-distance romantic relationships (LDRRs) and explore the contradiction(s) experienced by LDRR partners as they negotiate between togetherness and separation. Twenty heterosexual couples participated in audio-taped ‘couple interviews’ in which they answered a… 
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