Regulating partners in intimate relationships: the costs and benefits of different communication strategies.

@article{Overall2009RegulatingPI,
  title={Regulating partners in intimate relationships: the costs and benefits of different communication strategies.},
  author={Nickola C. Overall and Garth J. O. Fletcher and Jeffry A. Simpson and Chris G. Sibley},
  journal={Journal of personality and social psychology},
  year={2009},
  volume={96 3},
  pages={
          620-39
        }
}
This study tested the success of communication strategies used by relationship partners (N = 61 romantic couples) who were videotaped while trying to produce desired changes in each other. Strategies varying in valence (positive vs. negative) and directness (direct vs. indirect) were differentially associated with postdiscussion perceptions of success as well as ratings of demonstrated change in targeted features gathered at 3-month intervals during the following year. Direct strategies… Expand

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