Opposite-Sex Friendship: Sex Differences and Similarities in Initiation, Selection, and Dissolution

  title={Opposite-Sex Friendship: Sex Differences and Similarities in Initiation, Selection, and Dissolution},
  author={April Bleske-Rechek and David M. Buss},
  journal={Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin},
  pages={1310 - 1323}
The authors hypothesized that people form opposite-sex friendships (OSFs), in part, to acquire long-term mates (both sexes), to gain short-term sexual access (men more than women), and to gain physical protection (women more than men). In Study 1, men and women evaluated reasons for initiating OSFs, characteristics preferred in an OSF, and reasons for ending OSFs. Study 2 extended the framework to include individual differences in sociosexual orientation. Compared with women, men judged sexual… 

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