On the Rebound: Focusing on Someone New Helps Anxiously Attached Individuals Let Go of Ex-Partners

@article{Spielmann2009OnTR,
  title={On the Rebound: Focusing on Someone New Helps Anxiously Attached Individuals Let Go of Ex-Partners},
  author={Stephanie S. Spielmann and Geoff Macdonald and Anne E Wilson},
  journal={Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin},
  year={2009},
  volume={35},
  pages={1382 - 1394}
}
The present research demonstrates that focusing on someone new may help anxiously attached individuals overcome attachment to an ex-romantic partner, suggesting one possible motive behind so-called rebound relationships. A correlational study revealed that the previously demonstrated link between anxious attachment and longing for an ex-partner was disrupted when anxiously attached individuals had new romantic partners. Two experiments demonstrated that this detachment from an ex can be induced… 
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