On Being `Just Friends': The Frequency and Impact of Sexual Activity in Crosssex Friendships

  title={On Being `Just Friends': The Frequency and Impact of Sexual Activity in Crosssex Friendships},
  author={Walid A. Afifi and Sandra L. Faulkner},
  journal={Journal of Social and Personal Relationships},
  pages={205 - 222}
Research on cross-sex friendships has noted the presence of sexual tension in many of these relationships. Yet, to our knowledge, no studies have directly examined the frequency and effect of sexual contact on friendships. This investigation provides an initial look at the prevalence of sexual activity in otherwise `platonic' cross-sex friendships and applies a recently developed model of expectation violations to understand the related consequences of that behavior. Results suggest that… Expand
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