Negotiation of Dialectical Contradictions by Parents who have Experienced the Death of a Child

  title={Negotiation of Dialectical Contradictions by Parents who have Experienced the Death of a Child},
  author={Paige W. Toller},
  journal={Journal of Applied Communication Research},
  pages={46 - 66}
  • P. Toller
  • Published 1 February 2005
  • Psychology
  • Journal of Applied Communication Research
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