My Mother and Me

  title={My Mother and Me},
  author={Alyssa S. Fu and Hazel Rose Markus},
  journal={Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin},
  pages={739 - 749}
“Tiger Mother” Amy Chua provoked a culture clash with her claim that controlling parenting in Asian American (AA) contexts produces more successful children than permissive parenting in European American (EA) contexts. At the heart of this controversy is a difference in the normative models of self that guide behavior. Ideas and practices prevalent in AA contexts emphasize that the person is and should be interdependent with one’s close others, especially one’s mother. In contrast, EA contexts… 

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