Motivating Change in Relationships

  title={Motivating Change in Relationships},
  author={Nathaniel M. Lambert and Frank D. Fincham and Tyler F. Stillman and Steven M. Graham and Steven R. H. Beach},
  journal={Psychological Science},
  pages={126 - 132}
The objective of the current studies was to test whether praying for a relationship partner would increase willingness to forgive that partner. In Study 1 (N = 52), participants assigned to pray for their romantic partner reported greater willingness to forgive that partner than those who described their partner to an imagined parent. In Study 2 (N = 67), participants were assigned to pray for a friend, pray about any topic, or think positive thoughts about a friend every day for 4 weeks. Those… 
Prayer and Forgiveness: Beyond Relationship Quality and Extension to Marriage
  • F. Fincham, R. W. May
  • Psychology
    Journal of family psychology : JFP : journal of the Division of Family Psychology of the American Psychological Association
  • 2017
Three studies examined the role of prayer in romantic relationships and showed that prayer for a dating partner predicted lower aggressive tendencies and greater forgiveness of partner transgressions, independently of relationship closeness.
I say a little prayer for you: praying for partner increases commitment in romantic relationships.
  • F. Fincham, S. Beach
  • Psychology
    Journal of family psychology : JFP : journal of the Division of Family Psychology of the American Psychological Association
  • 2014
Two studies examine partner-focused petitionary prayer to see whether it is uniquely important in conveying relationship benefits, whether its benefits are transmitted through an effect on relationship satisfaction, and whether one's own or the partner's PFPP is central to beneficial effects.
Praying together and staying together: Couple prayer and trust.
Three studies examine the relationship between prayer, unity, and trust. Study 1 (N 29) showed that praying for one’s partner predicted objective ratings of trust. Study 2 (N 210) found a significant
The effects of brief prayer on the experience of forgiveness: An American and Indian comparison.
It is suggested that a brief prayer is capable of producing real change in forgiveness and this change is consistent across American and Indian cultures and across three different religious groups in India.
Investigating the Mediator role of Social Safeness on the Relationship between Forgiveness and Life Satisfaction
The aim of the present study is to examine the mediating effect of social safeness on the relationship between forgiveness and life satisfac- tion. Participants were 311 university students who
“Pray for Those Who Mistreat You”: Effects of Prayer on Anger and Aggression
Results are consistent with recent evolutionary theories, which suggest that religious practices can promote cooperation among nonkin or in situations in which reciprocity is highly unlikely.
Can Prayer Increase Charitable Giving? Examining the Effects of Intercessory Prayer, Moral Intuitions, and Theological Orientation on Generous Behavior
ABSTRACT This study was designed to investigate the effects of intercessory prayer, moral intuitions, God concept, and theological orientation on generous behavior in the form of charitable giving.
Religious Cognition and Duration of Maintained Grip
of a thesis at the University of Miami. Thesis supervised by Professor Michael E. McCullough. No. of pages in text. (43) Recent work suggests that the links between religious belief and behavior with
Enhancing Marital Enrichment Through Spirituality: Efficacy Data for Prayer Focused Relationship Enhancement
We examined 393 African American married couples assigned to (a) a culturally sensitive version of a widely disseminated relationship enhancement program (CSPREP); (b) a similar version of the same
Positive Approaches to Optimal Relationship Development: Forgiveness interventions for optimal close relationships: problems and prospects
After proving a historical context for understanding the three core constructs explored in this chapter, forgiveness, optimal functioning and close relationships, the chapter provides a conceptual


Three studies examine the role of spirituality, specifically prayer for the partner, in the development of young adult relationships. In Study 1 (N = 302) we examine longitudinal relationships to
Interpersonal forgiving in close relationships.
Evidence is found consistent with the hypotheses that the relationship between receiving an apology from and forgiving one's offender is a function of increased empathy for the offender and that forgiving is uniquely related to conciliatory behavior and avoidance behavior toward the offending partner.
Forgiveness in marriage: The role of relationship quality, attributions, and empathy
Italian husbands (n = 79) and wives (n = 92) from long-term marriages provided data on the role of marital quality, affective reactions, and attributions for hypothetical partner transgressions in
Dealing with betrayal in close relationships: does commitment promote forgiveness?
It is suggested that victims' self-oriented reactions to betrayal are antithetical to forgiveness, favoring impulses such as grudge and vengeance, and forgiveness rests on prorelationship motivation, one cause of which is strong commitment.
Forgiveness, personality and gratitude.
Forgiveness and conflict resolution in marriage.
  • F. Fincham, S. Beach, J. Davila
  • Psychology
    Journal of family psychology : JFP : journal of the Division of Family Psychology of the American Psychological Association
  • 2004
Husbands' retaliatory motivation was a significant predictor of poorer wife-reported conflict resolution, whereas wives' benevolence motivation predicted husbands' reports of better conflict resolution.
Self-esteem and organization of valenced information about others: the "Jekyll and Hyde"-ing of relationship partners.
The authors theorize that individuals with high self-esteem functionally integrate positive and negative partner information in memory, whereas those low in self-esteem segregate such information.
The grateful disposition: a conceptual and empirical topography.
The development of the Gratitude Questionnaire, a unidimensional measure with good psychometric properties, is described and evidence that gratitude is negatively associated with envy and materialistic attitudes is provided.
Longitudinal relations between forgiveness and conflict resolution in marriage.
  • F. Fincham, S. Beach, J. Davila
  • Psychology
    Journal of family psychology : JFP : journal of the Division of Family Psychology of the American Psychological Association
  • 2007
For wives, the positive dimension of forgiveness or benevolence predicted husbands' later reports of better conflict resolution controlling for initial levels of conflict resolution, independent of wives' marital satisfaction and the degree of hurt engendered by husbands' transgressions.
A Prototype Analysis of Forgiveness
The two criteria for demonstrating prototype structure (that participants find it meaningful to judge features in terms of their centrality and that centrality affects cognition) were met.