Misperception of sexual and romantic interests in opposite‐sex friendships: Four hypotheses

  title={Misperception of sexual and romantic interests in opposite‐sex friendships: Four hypotheses},
  author={Bryan L. Koenig and Lee A. Kirkpatrick and Timothy Ketelaar},
  journal={Personal Relationships},
Two online studies evaluated the misperception of sexual and romantic interests in established relationships and tested four hypotheses: a simple sex-difference hypothesis, a projection hypothesis, a mate value hypothesis, and a mediation hypothesis. Two hundred thirty-eight (Study 1) and 198 (Study 2) members of young adult opposite-sex friendship dyads indicated their sexual and romantic interests in their friend and their perceptions of their friend’s sexual and romantic interests in them… Expand

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