Lying to the One you Love: The Use of Deception in Romantic Relationships

@article{Cole2001LyingTT,
  title={Lying to the One you Love: The Use of Deception in Romantic Relationships},
  author={T. Cole},
  journal={Journal of Social and Personal Relationships},
  year={2001},
  volume={18},
  pages={107 - 129}
}
  • T. Cole
  • Published 2001
  • Psychology
  • Journal of Social and Personal Relationships
The goal of this research was to explore the use of deception in romantic relationships and relate the use of such behavior to relational outcomes. Three possible explanations underlying the use of deception in romantic relationships were tested. It was expected that deception would be related to the reciprocal exchange of information, the desire to avoid punishment, and individuals' attachment beliefs. Two hundred and fifty-six individuals (128 couples) completed questionnaires regarding their… Expand

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