Let's get serious: communicating commitment in romantic relationships.

  title={Let's get serious: communicating commitment in romantic relationships.},
  author={Joshua M. Ackerman and Vladas Griskevicius and Norman P. Li},
  journal={Journal of personality and social psychology},
  volume={100 6},
Are men or women more likely to confess love first in romantic relationships? And how do men and women feel when their partners say "I love you"? An evolutionary-economics perspective contends that women and men incur different potential costs and gain different potential benefits from confessing love. Across 6 studies testing current and former romantic relationships, we found that although people think that women are the first to confess love and feel happier when they receive such… 

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