It Doesn’t Hurt to Ask: Question-Asking Increases Liking

@article{Huang2017ItDH,
  title={It Doesn’t Hurt to Ask: Question-Asking Increases Liking},
  author={Karen Huang and Michael Yeomans and Alison Wood Brooks and Julia A. Minson and Francesca Gino},
  journal={Journal of Personality and Social Psychology},
  year={2017},
  volume={113},
  pages={430–452}
}
Conversation is a fundamental human experience that is necessary to pursue intrapersonal and interpersonal goals across myriad contexts, relationships, and modes of communication. In the current research, we isolate the role of an understudied conversational behavior: question-asking. Across 3 studies of live dyadic conversations, we identify a robust and consistent relationship between question-asking and liking: people who ask more questions, particularly follow-up questions, are better liked… 

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