If you need help, just ask: underestimating compliance with direct requests for help.
@article{Flynn2008IfYN,
title={If you need help, just ask: underestimating compliance with direct requests for help.},
author={Francis J. Flynn and Vanessa Kimberly Bohns Lake},
journal={Journal of personality and social psychology},
year={2008},
volume={95 1},
pages={
128-43
}
}A series of studies tested whether people underestimate the likelihood that others will comply with their direct requests for help. In the first 3 studies, people underestimated by as much as 50% the likelihood that others would agree to a direct request for help, across a range of requests occurring in both experimental and natural field settings. Studies 4 and 5 demonstrated that experimentally manipulating a person's perspective (as help seeker or potential helper) could elicit this…
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