Ideals in intimate relationships.

@article{Fletcher1999IdealsII,
  title={Ideals in intimate relationships.},
  author={Garth J. O. Fletcher and Jeffry A. Simpson and Geoff Thomas and Lynne Giles},
  journal={Journal of personality and social psychology},
  year={1999},
  volume={76 1},
  pages={
          72-89
        }
}
This research examined lay relationship and partner ideals in romantic relationships from both a social-cognitive and an evolutionary perspective. Studies 1 and 2 revealed that the qualities of an ideal partner were represented by 3 factors (partner warmth-trustworthiness, vitality-attractiveness, and status-resources), whereas the qualities of an ideal relationship were represented by 2 factors (relationship intimacy-loyalty and passion). A confirmatory factor analysis in Study 3 replicated… 
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