How can I thank you? Highlighting the benefactor’s responsiveness or costs when expressing gratitude

@article{Park2020HowCI,
  title={How can I thank you? Highlighting the benefactor’s responsiveness or costs when expressing gratitude},
  author={Yoobin Park and Mariko L. Visserman and Natalie M. Sisson and Bonnie M. Le and Jennifer E Stellar and E. Impett},
  journal={Journal of Social and Personal Relationships},
  year={2020},
  volume={38},
  pages={504 - 523}
}
Despite growing evidence that showing gratitude plays a powerful role in building social connections, little is known about how to best express gratitude to maximize its relational benefits. In this research, we examined how two key ways of expressing gratitude—conveying that the benefactor’s kind action met one’s needs (responsiveness-highlighting) and acknowledging how costly the action was (cost-highlighting)—impact benefactors’ reactions to the gratitude and feelings about their… 
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