Grieving Together and Apart: Bereaved Parents’ Contradictions of Marital Interaction

@article{Toller2009GrievingTA,
  title={Grieving Together and Apart: Bereaved Parents’ Contradictions of Marital Interaction},
  author={Paige W. Toller and Dawn O. Braithwaite},
  journal={Journal of Applied Communication Research},
  year={2009},
  volume={37},
  pages={257 - 277}
}
The researchers adopted relational dialectics theory (Baxter & Montgomery, 1996) to examine the discourse of 37 bereaved parents. Research questions guiding the study were what dialectical contradictions do bereaved parents experience when communicating with their marital partner after their child's death and how do bereaved parents and their marital partners communicatively negotiate the dialectical contradictions they experience? Our analysis revealed that bereaved parents experienced a… 
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