Everyday lies in close and casual relationships.

@article{Depaulo1998EverydayLI,
  title={Everyday lies in close and casual relationships.},
  author={Bella M Depaulo and Deborah A. Kashy},
  journal={Journal of personality and social psychology},
  year={1998},
  volume={74 1},
  pages={
          63-79
        }
}
In 2 diary studies, 77 undergraduates and 70 community members recorded their social interactions and lies for a week. Because lying violates the openness and authenticity that people value in their close relationships, we predicted (and found) that participants would tell fewer lies per social interaction to the people to whom they felt closer and would feel more uncomfortable when they did lie to those people. Because altruistic lies can communicate caring, we also predicted (and found) that… Expand

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