Emerging Perspectives on Distinctions Between Romantic Love and Sexual Desire

  title={Emerging Perspectives on Distinctions Between Romantic Love and Sexual Desire},
  author={Lisa M. Diamond},
  journal={Current Directions in Psychological Science},
  pages={116 - 119}
  • L. Diamond
  • Published 1 June 2004
  • Psychology, Biology
  • Current Directions in Psychological Science
Although sexual desire and romantic love are often experienced in concert, they are fundamentally distinct subjective experiences with distinct neurobiological substrates. The basis for these distinctions is the evolutionary origin of each type of experience. The processes underlying sexual desire evolved in the context of sexual mating, whereas the processes underlying romantic love—or pair bonding—originally evolved in the context of infant-caregiver attachment. Consequently, not only can… 

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