Dating is Hard Work: A Narrative Approach to Understanding Sexual and Romantic Relationships in Young Adulthood

  title={Dating is Hard Work: A Narrative Approach to Understanding Sexual and Romantic Relationships in Young Adulthood},
  author={Jamie Elizabeth Banker and Christine E Kaestle and Katherine R. Allen},
  journal={Contemporary Family Therapy},
This study utilized a qualitative approach informed by a narrative perspective to examine 57 young adults’ stories about sexual and romantic relationships. Participants (25 men and 32 women) were asked to define relationships in terms of how they know they are in a romantic or a sexual partnership. Young adults identified the language they use for different types of relationships, their perceptions of the hierarchy of romantic and sexual relationships, and their confusion or uncertainty about… Expand
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