Cross-Sex Friends Who were Once Romantic Partners: Are they Platonic Friends Now?

  title={Cross-Sex Friends Who were Once Romantic Partners: Are they Platonic Friends Now?},
  author={Carlee Schneider and D. A. Kenny},
  journal={Journal of Social and Personal Relationships},
  pages={451 - 466}
Relatively little is known about the relationships between exromantic partners. For example, is it possible for them to have a platonic friendship? The present study addresses this question by surveying both males and females who report having a cross-sex friend who was once a romantic partner and a cross-sex friend with whom there was never any romantic involvement. Both types of friendship are compared using rules of friendship, costs and benefits of friendship, romantic desires, and overall… Expand
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