Calibrating the sociometer: the relational contingencies of self-esteem.

@article{Murray2003CalibratingTS,
  title={Calibrating the sociometer: the relational contingencies of self-esteem.},
  author={Sandra L. Murray and Dale W. Griffin and Paul Rose and Gina M. Bellavia},
  journal={Journal of personality and social psychology},
  year={2003},
  volume={85 1},
  pages={
          63-84
        }
}
A longitudinal daily diary study examined how chronic perceptions of a partner's regard for oneself might affect the day-to-day relational contingencies of self-esteem. Married partners each completed a diary for 21 days, and completed measures of satisfaction twice over the year. Multilevel analyses revealed that people who chronically felt more positively regarded compensated for one day's acute self-doubts by perceiving greater acceptance and love from their partner on subsequent days. In… 
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