Benefit or burden? Attraction in cross-sex friendship

  title={Benefit or burden? Attraction in cross-sex friendship},
  author={April L. Bleske-Rechek and E. Somers and Cierra A. Micke and L. Erickson and Lindsay Matteson and Corey S. Stocco and Brittany Schumacher and Laura Ritchie},
  journal={Journal of Social and Personal Relationships},
  pages={569 - 596}
We propose that, because cross-sex friendships are a historically recent phenomenon, men’s and women’s evolved mating strategies impinge on their friendship experiences. In our first study involving pairs of friends, emerging adult males reported more attraction to their friend than emerging adult females did, regardless of their own or their friend’s current relationship status. In our second study, both emerging and middle-aged adult males and females nominated attraction to their cross-sex… Expand

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