Attached to monogamy? Avoidance predicts willingness to engage (but not actual engagement) in consensual non-monogamy

@article{Moors2015AttachedTM,
  title={Attached to monogamy? Avoidance predicts willingness to engage (but not actual engagement) in consensual non-monogamy},
  author={Amy Catherine Moors and Terri D. Conley and Robin S. Edelstein and William J. Chopik},
  journal={Journal of Social and Personal Relationships},
  year={2015},
  volume={32},
  pages={222 - 240}
}
People view monogamy as the optimal form of partnering and stigmatize consensual non-monogamous (CNM) relationships. Likewise, attachment researchers often equate romantic love (and security) with sexual exclusivity. Interestingly, a sizeable minority of people engage in CNM and report high levels of satisfaction. Across two studies, we examined how individual differences in attachment were associated with attitudes toward CNM, willingness to engage in CNM, and current involvement in CNM. Among… 

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