A Leap of Faith? Positive Illusions in Romantic Relationships

  title={A Leap of Faith? Positive Illusions in Romantic Relationships},
  author={Sandra L Murray and John G. Holmes},
  journal={Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin},
  pages={586 - 604}
It is proposed that satisfying, stable relationships reflect intimates' ability to see imperfect relationships in somewhat idealized ways-to make a leap of faith. Both members of dating and married couples completed a measure of relationship illusions, tapping idealized perceptions of the partners' attributes, exaggerated perceptions of control, and unrealistic optimism. Results of concurrent analyses revealed that relationship illusions predicted greater satisfaction, love, and trust, and less… 
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