A Family Matter

  title={A Family Matter},
  author={Amity Pierce Buxton},
  journal={Journal of GLBT Family Studies},
  pages={49 - 70}
  • A. Buxton
  • Published 31 March 2005
  • Psychology
  • Journal of GLBT Family Studies
Abstract The 2004 debate over civil marriage for same-gender couples highlights issues faced by mixed-orientation couples after one of the spouses comes out as gay, lesbian, or bisexual. The disclosure becomes a family matter as their spouses and children cope with the new information and antigay attitudes. The majority of couples divorce. A minority stays married for three years or more by developing strategies that enhance the relationship, offset outside pressures, and sustain the family… 

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