'I Like you... as a Friend': The Role of Attraction in Cross-Sex Friendship

  title={'I Like you... as a Friend': The Role of Attraction in Cross-Sex Friendship},
  author={Heidi Reeder},
  journal={Journal of Social and Personal Relationships},
  pages={329 - 348}
  • H. Reeder
  • Published 2000
  • Psychology
  • Journal of Social and Personal Relationships
This study investigated attraction in heterosexual cross-sex friendships. Study I used in-depth interviews with 20 dyads (40 participants) to uncover four types of attraction that occur in cross-sex friendships - subjective physical/sexual attraction, objective physical/sexual attraction, romantic attraction, and friendship attraction. These types of attraction are subject to being symmetrical or asymmetrical, and may incur changes over time. Study 11 (N = 231) used a questionnaire to assess… Expand

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