“In My Dream She Finds Me…And She Wants Me Just the Way I Am”

  title={“In My Dream She Finds Me…And She Wants Me Just the Way I Am”},
  author={Elmien Lesch and Chandapiwa Kelapile},
  journal={Men and Masculinities},
  pages={503 - 523}
Limited research is available with regard to the experience of biological fathers who are interested in being involved in their children’s lives but are restricted from doing so. In this study, we aimed to contribute to understanding these paternal constraints and to give unmarried fathers a platform to voice their experiences regarding restricted contact with their children. Interviews were conducted with six single, Setswana-speaking black fathers in South Africa. The phenomenological… 
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