“I was Only Kidding!”: Victims’ and Perpetrators’ Perceptions of Teasing

  title={“I was Only Kidding!”: Victims’ and Perpetrators’ Perceptions of Teasing},
  author={Robin M. Kowalski},
  journal={Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin},
  pages={231 - 241}
  • R. Kowalski
  • Published 1 February 2000
  • Psychology
  • Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin
Teasing is an interpersonal behavior that some people perceive to be fun and a matter of joking around and that other people view as cruel and a means of hurting someone’s feelings. These perspectives might reflect the views of perpetrators and victims, respectively. To examine this, 72 male and female participants wrote two narratives, one in which they described an incident when they were teased and another in which they described an event where they perpetrated the teasing. Victims and… 

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