“A Fool to Keep Staying”: Battered Women Labeling Themselves Stupid as an Expression of Gendered Shame

  title={“A Fool to Keep Staying”: Battered Women Labeling Themselves Stupid as an Expression of Gendered Shame},
  author={Viveka Enander},
  journal={Violence Against Women},
  pages={31 - 5}
  • Viveka Enander
  • Published 1 January 2010
  • Psychology, Medicine
  • Violence Against Women
In this qualitative study with women who have left abusive heterosexual relationships, the informants labeling themselves stupid is investigated. Several different meanings ascribed to stupidity were found, with feeling stupid for allowing oneself to be mistreated and for staying in the abusive relationship as main themes. Four frames for interpreting the findings are presented: abusive relationship dynamics, gendered shame, the gender-equality-oriented Nordic context, and leaving processes. It… 
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