"It was never that bad": Biased recall of grief and long-term adjustment to the death of a spouse

@article{Safer2001ItWN,
  title={"It was never that bad": Biased recall of grief and long-term adjustment to the death of a spouse},
  author={Martin A. Safer and George A. Bonanno and Nigel P. Field},
  journal={Memory},
  year={2001},
  volume={9},
  pages={195 - 203}
}
At 6 months following the death of their spouse, 37 participants reported their grief-related symptoms and thoughts, and then, approximately 4.5 years later, they attempted to recall how they felt at the time of the 6-month report. Although participants were far less distressed at recall than initially, they recalled their 6-month grief rather accurately. Participants did however overestimate prior grief-related intrusive ideation. Participant's current level of grief predicted what they… 
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