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Optimizing assurance: the risk regulation system in relationships.
A model of risk regulation is proposed to explain how people balance the goal of seeking closeness to a romantic partner against the opposing goal of minimizing the likelihood and pain of rejection.
The benefits of positive illusions: Idealization and the construction of satisfaction in close relationships.
It is proposed that satisfaction is associated with idealistic, rather than realistic, perceptions of one's partner. To provide baselines for assessing relationship illusions, both members of married
The self-fulfilling nature of positive illusions in romantic relationships: love is not blind, but prescient.
In this study of the long-term benefits (or possible costs) of positive illusions, both members of dating couples completed measures of idealization and well-being 3 times in a year to reveal that idealization had a variety of self-fulfilling effects.
Self-esteem and the quest for felt security: how perceived regard regulates attachment processes.
It is proposed that personal feelings of self-esteem foster the level of confidence in a partner's regard critical for satisfying attachments, and a dependency regulation model is proposed, wherein felt security in a partners' perceived regard is suggested as a prime mechanism linking self- esteem to relational well-being.
Balancing connectedness and self-protection goals in close relationships: a levels-of-processing perspective on risk regulation.
A model of risk regulation is proposed to explain how low and high self-esteem people balance the tension between self-protection and connectedness goals in romantic relationships. This model assumes
Kindred spirits? The benefits of egocentrism in close relationships.
The results revealed that people in satisfying and stable relationships assimilated their partners to themselves, perceiving similarities that were not evident in reality and mediated the link between egocentrism and satisfaction in marriage.
The architecture of interdependent minds: A Motivation-management theory of mutual responsiveness.
A system of procedural or "if... then" rules that foster mutuality in responsiveness by informing and motivating trust and commitment are described and it is argued that tuning rule accessibility and enactment to match the situations encountered in a specific relationship shapes its personality.
When rejection stings: how self-esteem constrains relationship-enhancement processes.
It is found that chronic needs for acceptance may result in low self-esteem people seeing signs of rejection where none exist, needlessly weakening attachments.
A Leap of Faith? Positive Illusions in Romantic Relationships
It is proposed that satisfying, stable relationships reflect intimates' ability to see imperfect relationships in somewhat idealized ways-to make a leap of faith. Both members of dating and married
The Quest for Conviction: Motivated Cognition in Romantic Relationships
In this article I explore the motivated construalprocesses that allow individuals to dispel doubt and sustain conviction in the face of less-than-pegectpartners and relationships. The surface