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Kindred spirits? The benefits of egocentrism in close relationships.
TLDR
The results revealed that people in satisfying and stable relationships assimilated their partners to themselves, perceiving similarities that were not evident in reality and mediated the link between egocentrism and satisfaction in marriage.
When rejection stings: how self-esteem constrains relationship-enhancement processes.
TLDR
It is found that chronic needs for acceptance may result in low self-esteem people seeing signs of rejection where none exist, needlessly weakening attachments.
The Mismeasure of Love: How Self-Doubt Contaminates Relationship Beliefs
The authors argue that individuals with more negative models of self are involved in less satisfying relationships because they have difficulty believing that they are loved by good partners. Dating
Once Hurt, Twice Hurtful: How Perceived Regard Regulates Daily Marital Interactions
A daily diary study examined how chronic perceptions of a partner's regard affect how intimates interpret and respond to daily relationship stresses. Spouses each completed a diary for 21 days.
Once hurt, twice hurtful: how perceived regard regulates daily marital interactions.
TLDR
Notably, chronically activated needs for belongingness might lead people who are trying to find acceptance to undermine their marriage.
Calibrating the sociometer: the relational contingencies of self-esteem.
TLDR
A longitudinal daily diary study examined how chronic perceptions of a partner's regard for oneself might affect the day-to-day relational contingencies of self-esteem, finding people who chronically felt more positively regarded compensated for one day's acute self-doubts by perceiving greater acceptance and love from their partner on subsequent days.
Putting the partner within reach: a dyadic perspective on felt security in close relationships.
TLDR
Putting the partner of a dating couple more within the psychological grasp of low self-esteem people may effectively increase felt security in the partner's regard.
The Contingencies of Interpersonal Acceptance: When Romantic Relationships Function as a Self-Affirmational Resource
Existing research suggests that people with high, but not low, self-esteem use their dating partners' love and acceptance as a resource for self-affirmation when faced with personal shortcomings. The
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